I couldn't have another child.
I refused donor eggs.
Should I have done that?
Could I have handled that?
Would I have told my child?
Is it a child's right to know?
Suppose he/she rejected me?
Suppose my child told others?
Would I have been just as good
of a mother?
I would have told.
No matter how hard.
I couldn't keep a secret like that
for a lifetime.
It wouldn't be right.
Not everyone feels that way.
And that is OK.
Parents need to make that
But for the parents who want to
tell, I wrote a book to help
"Before You Were Born...Our Wish For A Baby"
The books are written in age-appropriate,
loving language and tell the story of how
a child came to be.
There are currently 10 versions:
IVF, Frozen Embryo, Egg Domation,
Embryo Donation, Donor Insemination,
IVF using Donor Sperm, Traditional Surrogate,
Gestational Carrier, Female Partners and
There will be future books to address other
combinations including Single Women,
donor egg / husband's sperm / gestational carrier,